LIVING WITH GUILT.BY THE MAN OF STEEL...

“Hmmn! Had I know, had I know, I really wish I could turn back the time and make no such mistake again”. Always hearing such words come out of an offender makes me imagine if such words really have values because many times people say this words and never mean them…The truth still remains that whatever your offense could be,  it’s already called an offense making  it real and pointing to the fact that it’s already in the past.

  

We all are humans and that as a fact proves that we’re always going to makes mistakes. Sometimes, we might promise people heaven and earth and just at dying minute when we thought that we’re just at the brink fulfilling our promises, one mistake (just one mistake) enters and shatters everything we’ve worked for. Most people blame themselves to the extreme whenever such situations occur. Some believe that there some level of mistakes they shouldn’t make, and so, whenever they’re faced with situations as such, they could even kill themselves for making such mistakes. 

 

Forgetting that we all are humans, and as such we’re prone to making such mistakes.

A young man, who lived in a neighboring village, was lured into committing sexual immorality by his uncle’s wife. To his greatest shock, the uncle’s wife went ahead and asked him to be her secret lover thereby threatening to paint him as a rapist. This young man went home with the guilt of betraying his uncle and defiling himself with his uncle’s wife. Two weeks after the incident occurred, he committed suicide. And the uncle’s wife, on hearing this also committed suicide, thereby leaving a letter on her pillow, stating the whole incident and that she couldn’t live with such guilt. So, at the end of the day’ because of one guilt over a particular incident, the uncle who had no idea of what had happened, ended up having two dead bodies to bury (his wife’s and his nephew’s body). On that faithless day, sadness filled the air and sighs of surprise became the sound of distorted noise that brought untold pain in the face of these two individual’s neighbors. Yeah! That’s what mistakes and guilt or should I say regrets when converted to guilt, can do to somebody.

Don’t let guilt and regrets be the dictator of whether you should live or die. Give yourself the benefit of a doubt and believe that you can live to make corrections and learn from your past. Instead of getting rid of yourself because of pain, guilt or regrets, why not live, endure and find ways to remedy your situation? Anyways, it’s just my words to you. Everyone always has the choice of choosing.

              WAYS TO DEFLECT GUILT FROM THE ON SET.

1.TELL THE TRUTH:  A wise man once said “ gone are the days when lies took over my conscience and guilt make my intestines dead”. If you ask me, I share that man’s sentiments. In fact, it’s a model to follow. When you’re truthful, guilt never has any space to harbor, for truth flushes any dungeon of locked up secrets or web of lies. Also, truthfulness works hand in hand with healthy conscience, whereas deceitfulness on the other hand, gives birth to secrets, which may in turn, give birth to regret and from there give birth to guilt. A healthy and happy man is a man with good and clear conscience. I wish not myself, the accumulation of wealth, prominence and etcetera for the replacement of this beautiful and happy conscience I have with me.  

DON’T BE INTIMIDATED: Intimidation and frights can lock up secrets which may lead to guilt and chances of freedom. It can make you a very timid and inferior individual. Intimidation is like a net used in catching fishes. It scares you and then grabs the inner you. And once it has successfully got a hold of the inner you, it locks you and throws away the keys. Do not let intimidation’s net fetch you out, rather get out of wherever you are and go after it before it scares and grabs you. Confrontation is the key to unlocking your inner self and living a life of freedom. To all level of intimidation hates confrontations, because it scares them and gives their victims a chance of getting out of their whimpy fixed state. Confront anyone or anything intimidating you and stand a chance of getting free and flying like a bird.

OUTSMART YOUR GUILT: To guilt, its only power over you is your capability to store secrets and make decisions. And so it waits for the moments when tensions and fear causes you to store secrets. And when that stored secrets becomes pregnant and gives birth to regrets, the regrets in turn gives birth to guilt. Although, there’s nothing wrong in keeping secrets or feeling regrets and guilt. The truth still remains that the only thing that defines the whole situation is what you do after you’ve made a mistake. Do you continually drown yourself in guilt and self pity in such a way that you end up hurting yourself? Apply this in those moments and see if your mission of staying alive won’t be executed. Socialize with friends whenever such feelings comes up, think positively  and let no thought provoking words anyone says get to you.

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